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Your Insecurities. {Asheville, NC}

Recently, I came across a facebook friend’s quote where she said, “As women, we need to stop imposing our own insecurities on each other.”

I thought that was incredibly powerful and true.

We are quick to see our own perceived flaws. With that in mind, we are quick to see those same flaws in one another.
One of the biggest compliments I receive is how beautiful and confident I am in spite of my size.


What? How about just saying you’re beautiful and confident?
There are certainly brief moments in time where I’m made aware of my body type.
{when you compliment me in spite of it and last night when I sang “I like big butts” at karaoke.}
But, unless otherwise noted, it’s not something I think about.

I don’t feel beautiful in spite of my body.
I feel beautiful because of my body and my face and my soul.

I understand that for some women there’s an insecurity in their body and that’s ok.
You may think about your stomach rolls or your flappy arms. You may obsess over it. I understand that.
But, learning that others may not hold that same need to change themselves all the time is an important piece of progress.

I’m insecure about my ability to express myself clearly. I worry that people will view that as shallow or that I’m not intelligent.
But, I don’t approach my friends who are competent and powerful communicators and tell them that they are great communicators even though I heard them use ‘um’ exactly 7 times.

We shouldn’t encourage each other to harbor the insecurities that we carry for ourselves.
Instead, we should push each other to live fuller and more authentic lives both internally and externally.
Ultimately, working towards the goal of a world filled with real and empowered women. {and men too}

with love,


{Inspired to write by the thoughts of Lucretia VanDyke, a dynamic and authentic woman!}


Matt Mitchell - March 17, 2014 - 8:12 pm

Great words!! It’s sad to see so many women and men so hung up on body and body image. I either read this somewhere and cannot find it online or made it up: We live our lives to create our bodies rather than live in our bodies to create our lives.

Donna Dobbins McCall - March 17, 2014 - 10:01 pm

You teach me things I need to learn 🙂

Shanna Rae Peele - March 17, 2014 - 10:34 pm

I always love reading everything you have to say! Beautiful, inspiring words from a beautiful, inspiring lady!

Aubrey Schierbeek - March 18, 2014 - 3:09 am

love love love this.

Emily Peele - March 18, 2014 - 3:51 am

Um, word

Travis Mitchell - March 18, 2014 - 12:42 pm

Love this post…as always.

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