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The Journey to Being a Kinder, More Independent, and More Vivacious Individual! {Asheville, NC Boudoir Photographer}

I used to post my personal and business goals at the beginning of every month. They were my little to-do lists that had more to do with accomplishing tasks then anything else. I did it mainly for accountability. The idea that I would have to answer to my lovely blog readers if I didn’t accomplish a certain task I’d laid out.

That served me well for a while. But, it ended up not feeling quite right for my blog.

At the beginning of this month, I wrote myself a personal list. Not a task list as much as a list intended to stretch me.

I’m in a really large season of transition right now. I wanted to make sure that I was taking steps to become a more courageous person, a more open and liberated person, and someone who constantly chases after the things that draw her.

So, I thought that may be a little more fitting to what I want this blog to be about. I also thought it would be a great opportunity for me to challenge myself to a monthly self-portrait. I’ve been resistant to that for several reasons lately. But, there’s something about self-portraiture that helps you to see yourself as you are.

I haven’t taken one yet this month, but, I’ve used an older one from when I was doing regular self-portrait projects.

I’ve committed to a list of 10 things every month. Things that I am scared to do, I feel inadequate for, or that I feel will aid me in becoming a kinder, more independent, and more vivacious individual!

This months list: {there are already a few completed, I’ve striked them out!}

1. Sing karaoke.
2. Go hiking alone.
3. Stay in every night for one week.
4. Meet a stranger for coffee.
5. Go full-time boudoir. 
6. Take a hip-hop dance class.
7. Get drawn nude.
8. Do something I don’t feel capable of doing.
9. Dye my hair. 
10. Take a self-portrait.

At the beginning of the next month I will share some stories from this list and reveal my self-portrait and next month’s list!

Here’s to pushing myself into the life that I imagine!

Do you have a list? Should you have a list?

Share with me in the comments below!!

with love and transition,


Ashley Wyatt Burroughs - August 14, 2013 - 4:19 pm

Don’t go hiking alone! It’s dangerous! Have you seen 127 hours? you’re just like your brother! I am going to have to tie you two to a chair! Love you, mean it!

Amanda Chapman - August 14, 2013 - 4:28 pm

I absolutely vote to hike alone, albeit safely! It’s my primary release. Will be glad to send you a list of tips if you’d like!

Lisa Newton Zahiya - August 14, 2013 - 4:51 pm


Jessica Hedrick - August 14, 2013 - 5:05 pm

YESSSS! I think this is my number one reaction to everything, but you get my drift 🙂

Foxhouse Studio - August 14, 2013 - 6:48 pm

I’m relocating to Asheville in November, if meeting (another) stranger for coffee is still on your list, I’d love for it to be me! : )

Aubrey Schierbeek - August 14, 2013 - 7:53 pm

I love this idea and I love your list except for #9! Your hair is stunning.

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