There are a few people in life that will call you out on your nonsense. Making friends with people that are willing to tell you what they really think, that’s a gift that I cherish. I want to know that you aren’t going to just sit back and let me walk all over you. I also want to know that you will let me know if I’m not living up to my full potential.
One of my consistently honest and simultaneously kind friends said something to me last night that has stuck with me as I drink my cappuccino this morning.
John mentioned that he knows I’m one of the most confident people that he’s met. But, that on my blog I can present myself as unsure or even insecure.
It reminds me of a conversation that I had with Leslie, a beautiful and wonderful life coach in town, where she said that I have almost two sides one who’s very strong, independent, and powerful. Then the other which is almost asking people to not take me too seriously.
Inside, I know exactly who I am and what I want.
I know why I do the things I do and in what order.
I’m determined and balanced.
But, I tend to under-sell myself.
With the entirety of my financial life relying on my ability to sell myself, well, I suppose that should change.
I want to speak with the confidence that I have within me and to present myself as strongly as I’m able to present my clients.
I have lived a life where I tone myself down so that no one else feels uncomfortable around me.
I’m learning that being strong and un-apologetic when paired with kindness towards others is a dynamic combo.
One without the other, in either direction, is a tipping of the balance scale that I’d like to avoid.