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I want to see you. ( The Evolution Series: Week 12)

It’s been a while since I’ve written. This is probably the longest this blog has heard crickets since it started. I’d love to tell you that I’ve been distracted or busy or that there’s any other reason for allowing silence to live in this space.

The truth is that I’ve been nervous.

This is a topic that I knew I wanted to touch on during this series, but, I wasn’t quite ready to take the risk of putting it all out there. That’s not traditionally the way that I operate and I’m not ready to start living in fear now. So, here we go.


As a thick-bodied person you are always told to cover yourself up. Maybe it’s not directly and maybe it is. But, it’s in the way you hear people talk about others and what they’re wearing, it’s in the “Who wore it best” columns and the whispered critiques of a stranger saying, “that shirt is just not flattering on her.” I decided long ago that I would choose how much of my body to show and what to wear based off of my own desires and nothing else.

I guess part of that is an act of rebellion. A belief that the more you look at my unclothed body the more normal it will be to see women with dimpled thighs and stomachs that aren’t flat. The more you will look at your own stomach changing shape and think that it’s just not that big of a deal.

Dare to feel attractive.
Walk around looking people in the eye while you feel the air on your skin.
Forget the rules: wear stripes, wear color and for goodness sake just buy the shorts.

Let me be the first to say that I want to see you.

Don’t make yourself smaller for me.
Make yourself healthier.
I want you to thrive.
Society needs people who are vibrantly living beautifully large lives.


Josie del Mosie - April 6, 2016 - 5:13 pm

Yes. yes. yes. it is so good to see you.

Lily Calfee - April 6, 2016 - 5:17 pm

Wow, love this.

Greg Miller - April 6, 2016 - 5:28 pm

I’m really loving the all-body-appreciation that is emerging in our culture. This is the type of article that helps it thrive and grow, thank you for sharing!

Nora Roy - April 6, 2016 - 5:41 pm

Just what I needed to read today!

Meryl Lefkovich - April 6, 2016 - 6:09 pm

Youre so damn beautiful.

Lydia Santiago Gillis - April 7, 2016 - 5:28 am

You are beautiful Sarajane Case and I so appriciate this article. Thank you for being so open and vurnable!

Elisa Schulman - April 7, 2016 - 12:33 pm

You are awesome Sara! I agree totally that you should dress for yourself and feel good about it. This society is so messed up I cannot even pay attention to it much anymore and that’s sad. I am an unconventional person, always have been. I’m still learning myself like most of us. At least I have lost the need for approval from others. Seems like you have too! Have a glorious day and I look forward to your next blog post. Peace on you.

Leah Webb - April 7, 2016 - 4:25 pm

“Dare to feel attractive.” New words to live by. <3

Rosalee Capozzi - April 9, 2016 - 8:35 pm

I should have read this earlier in the week. I went shopping for shorts, which I NEVER wear. I spent at least an hour debating whether or not to get them. I ended up not buying them because I “just didn’t like the way the looked”. When in reality, they were comfortable and cute and I loved them, but I didn’t spring for the purchase because I was afraid of others’ thoughts about my dimpled thighs. But you know what….. Who cares. I’m going back to khols to get the shorts.

Thanks. 🙂

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