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    I'm Sarajane, a blogger and photographer based out of Asheville, NC.

    On this blog you can find stories from my life, my thoughts on the world,
    and photos of some pretty fantastic people!

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    with love,

My Time by the Water.

At the precipice of my 13th birthday, I moved to Inverness, Florida to live with my grandparents.
There was turmoil at my house and my school life felt unmanageable.
My beautiful and understanding mother allowed me the freedom to move 9 hours away to try and find some joy.

I made friends quickly and my grandparents were so loving and kind to me.
There were several reasons for me to have gratitude for that experience.
But, the greatest of all was my time by the water.

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Don’t let my cheerful disposition fool you.

Don’t let me cheerful disposition fool you dear readers.

I’m not one to pretend that heart ache doesn’t exist.
I live with a full understanding that my heart has been chipped at with harmful words and carelessness.
I also know that I have done my fair share of chipping as I’ve climbed the twisty and uncomfortable mountain of self-acceptance. I’ve left a trail of harmful words and actions in the weeds with my past insecurities.

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Lauren Stickels - May 11, 2015 - 10:42 pm

Never stop shining so bright! I love basking in your light and you inspire me to shine mine too. Xoxo

Elisa Schulman - May 12, 2015 - 1:07 pm

This is beautiful. The words are inspiring. Just reading this right now, has lifted my spirit. Thank you for posting this.

Poems, Romance and Solo Trips to Denny’s.

Once, a man in a cafe’ asked me to read his poem.
It was five pages of how things dissipate but leave a residue after they’re gone.
It was beautiful.
His parents had funded him to write for 3 years and I’ve seen him almost everyday
in one coffee shop or another doing exactly that.
Part of me loved him for it,
part of me resented his privilege
and the worst part of me wondered if he’d mentioned me in any.

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How to be Confident in 10 Easy Steps.

I sat next to him as we waited for the others to join us for dinner.
He mentioned that his confidence is perceived, yet, he compares himself to others who contain more confidence than him and he knows that his insecurities run deep.
I expressed my relation and thought of everyone I know who comes across as confident and all of the deep and heavy insecurities that we’re all carrying around with us.

The fact is, insecurity doesn’t have to eliminate confidence.
Dear readers, confidence isn’t a privilege given to the beautiful or the talented or the perfect.
Rather, it’s a right allotted to you as a human being.
Which brings me to the good news, which is that you can just take it.

Confidence is a renewable resource, there’s plenty to go around, so, for all of you beautiful souls who keep asking me, “how are you so confident?” Today I’m going to do my very best to find actual steps to confidence, here we go.

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Daniel Ballard - April 21, 2015 - 2:00 am

So much goodness here. :)

Emily Peele - April 22, 2015 - 10:15 pm

This was a brave and awesome article. There’s always the fear that explaining a joke to someone will effectively rob it of its’ humor but conversely, here you only heighten interest in the active practice of confidence. As one of the lucky few allowed into your personal community, I can say you really do practice all of these steps and in your own sweet way have brought to my attention over the years my tendency not accept compliments. Your gentle attention to that fact has guided much in my awareness towards the long-term impact of shielding oneself from acceptance and love. Hoo-rah for Sarajane and your encouragement of self love in our community.

Denise Carbonell - April 25, 2015 - 7:11 pm

beautifully written.

Donna Dobbins McCall - April 26, 2015 - 7:39 pm

Beautiful advice

Meghan Bollenback - April 28, 2015 - 6:38 pm

I love this list. I completely agree with #5. I am slightly terrified by the thought of #4 to be totally honest, but I think your reasoning is sound.

Elisa Schulman - May 12, 2015 - 1:33 pm

You are a very intuitive young woman. I think this list you have written is an awesome way to go. Great advice for all. So happy I got to see this and now follow your blog. Lauren Stickels , because we are friends on FB is the reason I found Sarajane. Thank you both!

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