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When Your Morning Radio Show Goes Sour. {Asheville, NC Boudoir Photographer}

I was listening to the radio a while back. The host was talking about an overweight man at the gym who was wearing really small shorts and no shirt. For whatever reason this was offensive to the guy hosting the radio show. So offensive that he felt the need to talk about it on air. He mentioned it being OK for someone who was a little more fit to wear the same outfit. But, that guy wasn’t suited for it.

The woman on the show, who they’ve discussed before as being overweight, took a minute to defend the guy. She said, “It’s attitudes like that which keep people out of the gym in the first place.” The other host responded with a comment along the lines of, “It’s the cheeseburger in their hand that’s keeping them out of the gym.” The woman was immediately shot down and when she spoke again it was to say that while she doesn’t think her fellow host should be judging the other guy, she also doesn’t think the other guy should be wearing those shorts either.

What is it about this man’s body that was so offensive? Why is it deemed appropriate for someone with a tighter body to wear less clothing?

It caused me to really think about how our society approaches bodies. Particularly bodies that are anything but average. Like myself and the majority of my clients.
Whether you are “too curvy,” “too muscular”, “too skinny”, “too anything.”

It seems like our society feels the need to not only point it out, but, to do something to make you more average.
You should eat more, work out less, eat less and work out more. You should cover your stomach, wear higher wasted pants, etc.

At first it was a sad feeling for me. To think that someone could be looking at me at any given point and finding me revolting. Enough so that they would feel the need to talk about it later.

But, today as I’m writing this. I realize that I don’t care.

That, as long as I know I’m healthy and happy. Then, I feel great.
I’m at a place where I look in the mirror and I’m good with it.
If someone else isn’t, to a degree, that’s just fine.
We’re all attracted to different things and people and shapes.

But, the idea of someone feeling so superior. Enough that they feel like they can tell us that one body is correct and another is not.
That’s disheartening.

I just wanted to take the time to tell you, that you’re perfect.
Don’t allow someone else’s opinion of beautiful to define yours.

Because, just as many people think you’re ravishing as the loud-mouthed radio host thinks you’re not.

with love,



Tyler McCall - August 21, 2013 - 7:11 pm

Honey, what other people think of you is none of your business.

Donna Dobbins McCall - August 21, 2013 - 9:35 pm

Amen, Sarajane! I have allowed other people’s opinions to keep me down for years. Time to stop it!

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