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  • Hello There!

    I'm Sarajane, a blogger and photographer based out of Asheville, NC.

    On this blog you can find stories from my life, my thoughts on the world,
    and photos of some pretty fantastic people!

    Grab a cup of coffee (or bourbon) and make yourself at home!
    Don't forget to leave a comment and let me know you were here.

    with love,
    Sj

Poems, Romance and Solo Trips to Denny’s.

Once, a man in a cafe’ asked me to read his poem.
It was five pages of how things dissipate but leave a residue after they’re gone.
It was beautiful.
His parents had funded him to write for 3 years and I’ve seen him almost everyday
in one coffee shop or another doing exactly that.
Part of me loved him for it,
part of me resented his privilege
and the worst part of me wondered if he’d mentioned me in any.

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How to be Confident in 10 Easy Steps.

I sat next to him as we waited for the others to join us for dinner.
He mentioned that his confidence is perceived, yet, he compares himself to others who contain more confidence than him and he knows that his insecurities run deep.
I expressed my relation and thought of everyone I know who comes across as confident and all of the deep and heavy insecurities that we’re all carrying around with us.

The fact is, insecurity doesn’t have to eliminate confidence.
Dear readers, confidence isn’t a privilege given to the beautiful or the talented or the perfect.
Rather, it’s a right allotted to you as a human being.
Which brings me to the good news, which is that you can just take it.

Confidence is a renewable resource, there’s plenty to go around, so, for all of you beautiful souls who keep asking me, “how are you so confident?” Today I’m going to do my very best to find actual steps to confidence, here we go.

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Daniel Ballard - April 21, 2015 - 2:00 am

So much goodness here. :)

Emily Peele - April 22, 2015 - 10:15 pm

This was a brave and awesome article. There’s always the fear that explaining a joke to someone will effectively rob it of its’ humor but conversely, here you only heighten interest in the active practice of confidence. As one of the lucky few allowed into your personal community, I can say you really do practice all of these steps and in your own sweet way have brought to my attention over the years my tendency not accept compliments. Your gentle attention to that fact has guided much in my awareness towards the long-term impact of shielding oneself from acceptance and love. Hoo-rah for Sarajane and your encouragement of self love in our community.

Denise Carbonell - April 25, 2015 - 7:11 pm

beautifully written.

Holding your breath. {A guest essay from Melissa Allen.}

Hi there captivating blog readers! My life has me unable to blog as frequently as I once was. I’m creating content once a week on Mondays (with the occasional Friday post here and there) and have decided to open up this platform for other writers to share when they feel led to! Today’s guest blog post is from writer, dancer, runner and all around amazing woman, Melissa Allen. Check out her blog here if you want to hear more from her. Which you do. 

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Brett A McCall - April 15, 2015 - 6:43 pm

Another circle of purple.

Brooks Gonzalez - April 15, 2015 - 9:19 pm

Damn girl that is so powerful!! So open hearted and I thank you for sharing

Cierra Winters - April 15, 2015 - 10:34 pm

“HOLDING YOUR BREATH” by my coworker, Melissa Allen. Beautiful and powerful!

Emily Peele - April 19, 2015 - 4:11 pm

Easily one my favorite works of art I’ve encountered so far this year, you can stream it on Netflix…musing on a similar truth

“Bill dropped his keys on the counter and stood there staring at them, suddenly thinking about all the times he’d thrown his keys there before, and how many days of his life were wasted, repeating the same tasks and rituals in his apartment over and over again. But then he wondered if, realistically, this WAS his life, and the unusual part was his time spent doing other things.”

I drew over the yellow pages what I believed to be a map to happiness.

I sat in the woods, my 7 year old fingers gripping the edges of a crinkled piece of paper torn from the phone book.
I drew over the yellow pages what I believed to be a map to happiness.

Just down the trail, across the creek and beyond the abandoned house.

Certainly at the end of this journey I would find it.
What I was looking for, I’m not sure I knew then.
I simply longed for something different.

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Show love, don’t ask for it, through food. {A guest essay from Meg Bollenback}

Hi there captivating blog readers! My life has me unable to blog as frequently as I once was. I’m creating content once a week on Mondays (with the occasional Friday post here and there) and have decided to open up this platform for other writers to share when they feel led to! Today’s guest blog post is from blogger Meghan Bollenback. Follow her blog for travel stories and some really fun recipes! 

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Really Soft and Fluffy M&M Cookies - Meg Bollenback - April 8, 2015 - 11:49 am

[…] last week, right? Well, I had a bit of a blonde moment and did make them last week for a guest post that I wrote (read on for more about that!) that I thought was going up last week, and on last […]

Meghan Bollenback - April 8, 2015 - 12:55 pm

Thank you very much for posting this, Sarajane!

Jennifer Mulkerrin - April 8, 2015 - 1:28 pm

Loved this!

Barbara Bollenback - April 16, 2015 - 2:01 pm

Wonderful article, Meghan. Love you Grandma

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